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    • Joseph, I understand your frustration, after so many years! Unless you are still on supervision, though, the courts aren’t punishing you. I doubt they even put you on the registry… unless you are from CA or one of those early states? But either way, we know registration IS punishment, and some of the challenges out there (PA most recently, and OK and MD) have also declared registration to be punitive. We just have to keep fighting!

  1. Hey Jon.. you know they say good things come to those who wait. We all have our troubles in life. Sure I am on the sex offender registry as a lot of others but the thing is we are all created equal but its always nice to see a measure of faith in one’s heart to reach out to others in need. Now a lot of this sex offender hoopla will be over soon and those who persevere in good ways will be blessed. Helping others is always good.
    I know that it seems uncanny to talk at times about spiritual things but if one can’t understand spiritual things how can they understand carnal things and the right things to do to make things right not only for ourselves but for others. Oh and by the way prayer helps a lot also.

  2. What an encouraging story. I’m glad to hear there’s some success out there in this endeavor! I tried to get into “secular” therapy in order to treat offenders of all types, but every Graduate program I applied to denied or rescinded any offers when I disclosed my status. I begrudgingly gave up on that dream and am instead pursuing my original course (before the offense) in IT. It’s so easy to give up, but we have to keep fighting and proving that we are human beings.

  3. I am the wife of a sex offender. I led him to Jesus Christ. We are now married and have a baby. He is a reformed changed man and loves me and our child. We recently moved to Northwest,AR and have had harassment here. I’d like to know what I can do to help him. He works his butt off, leaves everyone alone, is very likeable but some treat him as less than human. I need to know his rights. I’d like to start a church for sex offenders. They certainly aren’t welcome there either.

    • I just joined this forum and saw your comment. Sorry I am a year late. I too am married to a great man whom has been given the title as a sex offender. I wold love to talk to you and I wish you and your family well.

  4. Congratulations on finding your calling. When I was in jail (internet chat with a detective), God told me there was a need for housing for felons, and particularly, sex offenders. After two years renting from a former gunnery Sargent (all he asked for was the truth at all times (and rent on-time)), I was led to buy a house in the area. I was blessed to have financial resources though everything else had either been taken away or thrown away. In the 7 years I owned that house, I had over 20 men and women come through. Several went on to productive lives.

    Two pieces of advice: 1) At the first opportunity, be honest and disclose your past, your current situation and your goals with your Preacher and the elders. Do the same with your immediate neighbors and your immediate boss.
    2) Forgive yourself. Jesus did. I know there are other ways to “success” in this world, but a Bible-teaching church played an important role in helping me regain my sanity and my sense of self-worth. If the first church does not extend a welcome to you, move to the next one. It’s not the sign over the door which is important, it’s the Spirit within. I attend a men’s Bible study at a church which requires me to be escorted per an approved/signed procedure in order to be on their grounds. It’s a small inconvenience. We do what we have to do and subjugate our pride. And that’s OK

    Sure, I am still under-employed, but I have re-married and my daughters have started talking to me again. Her children are slowly coming around as they think/believe I’m out to con their mom and take her for everything she’s got. I doubt there are any “easy” states for an RSO, but I’m not going to let that stop me from being satisfied with my life.

    Finally, There really ought to be a way to get off the dang registry. I’ve gotten myself on the Violent list with the associated predator label and there is no way off. I have zero credibility and now I get to have a big scarlet letter on my passport. I don’t know that I’ll even renew it when the Feds order me to allow it to be confiscated and to send it back to them. Papers Please? Me-> I have no papers. Go ahead and take me in.

  5. I came out of prison in March 2012 and by May I was in an I.T. course. Fast forward to 2017. I still can’t get ANY computer-related jobs. Do you have an I.T. career?

  6. This is an awesome example of just how church can help. I have a porn conviction from 2003. I started attending Celebrate Recovery in 2007 and have to say I recommend it highly. I now spend my time counseling other guys (usually married and the wife has found porn- their choice is, leave the porn or the wife.)
    My sexual addiction is just like any other addiction. With the right treatment and support, you can overcome it. I’ve given my testimony at CR all over SC and am met with nothing but kind support.
    Find a CR in your area and give it a try!!

  7. Stop identifying us a sex offenders, as if we continue to behave in this criminal manner! I’ve been placed on a civil registry for citizens who have offended sexually – but I am not a sex offender – I am a human being, loved and respected by people who know me better than you. How would you like for people to identify you every single day as a “Despicable Old Fart.” I could blog about how you’re such a wonderful Despicable Old Fart doing a great civic duty for those on civil registries. Our I could ask for you to join my movement for rehabilitating Despicable Old Farts like you.

    How about saying things like:

    for those who sexually offended in the past;
    men and women on the civil registry; or
    registered citizens.

    • Michael, thank you for your comments. NARSOL itself does try to avoid using the term “sex offender” as much as possible. The people telling their stories here, however, have their own voices and will from time to time end up using the term. If we were to make that many edits, the story would no longer belong to them. We hope you understand.

  8. Jon C., THANK YOU for providing your story and that you have chosen The Ministry, I am in Calif., and wish your program you cover was here, there are SO MANY more hearts/lives to be attended to here in one of THE Most populated States and lost souls and others that may just ‘give up hope’ and not see the light and take drastic turns, for the worse. And may take their own. Hopefully, with His Will, your calling will be brought here to this State in ends. You must see the Netflix show called “13 Reasons Why” reflecting cruel and sad self inflictment and others pretending to be the GP and the odd h.s. students as RC’s taking the crap for who they are and continual punishment for their past. Lessons to be learned even though it is the end of their H.S. years on alot on campus where they are tormented and and more than 1 takes their own life away, even though younger aged, CP is more common as it was on campus there, a faux location filmed in L.A. and the Bay Area. The whole point is that even from earlier age, we have offenders in the RC world and tougher for them to understand and accept post mortem (jail/prison sentencing)with their New Lives ahead that seems hopeless as rules go beyond living a convict life post Probation/Parole as an new RC(S.O.).
    That we live in a society that does NOT forgive and wants continual punishement and the labeling of all the same (crimes in the S.O. category) and treated the same after doing there time and denied housing, employment and living in the Tech World today, using limited use of social media attempting to a sense of normality where many after Prob/Par., canNOT use or better utlize apps, internet and other areas to reconnect with family and friends when jobs are scarce for RC’s. The folks here Jon C. need help/Counseling
    from non-gov point to not be re-thrown back into the system where they will want the assistance alike your program. He Blesses you for your new road to enlightenment and encouragement to the RC’s out there, and may your road be more non-eventful as you are guided to help these men and women. Kudos to you Jon C. thank you for your story and pic of a calming face to put a name to as others fear to be found nor want any PICS let alone the Registry again agonizing them and their loved ones anymore with pics on the interent/W.W.W. Peace

  9. Hello everyone. I hope my comment doesn’t offend anyone.Im not someone whos going through a registration problem but Im a mother of a 19 year old who has just been found guilty and is facing consequences of registration. Before all of this I personally have always disagreed witn this law that takes away human rights. Ive read heard and know stories of lives destroyed due to this. Only our Heavenly Father is the master of our lives. I never thought i would be going through this with my son . The hardest thing is the story behind it. The laws are unfair. And ok… Consequences are nedded i understand.. But registration is cruel. Ive read all of the comments and i sit here CRYING… Reading Pastors testimony and GOD’s calling regardless of it all…. There’s ALWAYS HOPE and GOD remains FAITHFUL.

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